Once eccentric, now just disappearing

I started this blog as the eccentriceditor for content’s sake. I didn’t really want to name my site eccentric (I forgot I wanted to use the word eclectic.) I probably wouldn’t have changed the name of the blog if it had been eclecticeditor. Alas, here I am now.

Black Girl in the USA—girl disappearing (what on earth’s occuring?)

Why girldisappearing.com? Well, I bought the domain name because I love the Tori Amos song and thought it would be a good blog site (easy to type and remember). Then I decided to rename it to Black Girl in the USA. You’d think I have commitment issues. I guess I do when it comes to writing and blogging. I’ve been married for 13 years so I have no problems with fidelity there. But I will cheat on my other blogs. I will probably cheat on this one after a while, too. In the past, I’ve written about:

  • Mental health/mental illness
  • Psychiatric drugs
  • Infertility
  • Childlessness (I know, I have a kid now, but it goes along with the infertility part)
  • Postpartum depression/OCD
  • Christian beliefs
  • Books
  • Music
  • Current events

I’d like to take this blog in a different direction. Not just talk about my life, but provide regular content on different things. I won’t say NOTHING is off-limits but I plan on being pretty open about my political leanings, my thoughts on current events, the music I love, and the iPhone apps I ADORE.

And Bitmojis. All the Bitmojis, y’all.


One of my favorite Christian bands in the whole wide world is BarlowGirl. Although they retired the band in 2012, their music still lives on and rings true.

I have a few favorites—it’s hard to pick one really since so many of their songs have made a difference in my life—but “Surrender” is the one song that has always really resonated with me. Just about surrendering my life and my heart to God.


I originally bought Alicia Keys’ album, Girl on Fire, for the title track, but upon listening to the rest of the album, I realized how many other gems were included. A particular song that stands out to me is called “When It’s All Over.” Initially, I thought it was a love song from Alicia Keys to her partner. But by the end, I realize that, even though it IS a love song, it’s not for whom I think. Take a listen.


How have I gotten through several Thursday Tunes without dropping an Aimee Mann song?

I was introduced to Aimee Mann back in 2000 when I was in college, shortly after the movie Magnolia came out. Magnolia came out in 1999 but Aimee Mann predominantly recorded the musical soundtrack accompanying the movie.

That soundtrack changed my life.


Aimee Mann has gone on to become one of the most influential lyricists and singer-songwriters in my life. Every lyric of hers always resonates with me in some way and I can find a way to identify with it (usually metaphorically and figuratively). I’ve gone on to enjoy the albums that came before and the albums that came after, but the Magnolia soundtrack holds a special place in my heart for how raw and honest the music is.

Please listen to my favorite (a nearly Grammy-winning song), if you haven’t heard it before, “Save Me”:


one of my favorite songs at the end of a long workday is norah jones’ “the long day is over.” it’s a beautiful song that really soothes me and allows me to just stretch out and relax. my tense shoulders soften and a lot of the stress that has built up melts away. i should […]